Saturday, September 15, 2018

The pleasure of sitting still and being quiet.

My daughter, and my brother, having fun.
Since the very beginning of our lives, we live in a world of spinning excitement, which never quite stops for anything. There's a constant whirl of activity all around us. It seems we fill out lives with so much to do, that we never pause to let it just happen. Watch a baby, as they are incapable of large actions and don't interrupt with lots of talking, and you'll see they keenly observe everything. They want to be involved in the world, but can only interact in a limited way. Yet, they are a part of it all, even without dancing around. Just because you sit still, doesn't mean you're a lump of coal.

I think we forget to stop and be quiet. How frequently do you turn off everything and just sit still? My guess is you had to think about it for a while. Our lives swirl with activity, at times so intense we get headaches from the din. We pine for vacations and to get away from it all. Well, just sit down and relax, without any entertainment or chaotic noise. Anyone can do it. Anyone can take the time. Anyone is in the position, every day, to stop and relax. It's one of the healthiest activities we can undertake, and you'll find that stress doesn't quite pile up like it usually does.

The more technology marches forward, the more I find myself wanting to let less of it into my life. It's funny, because I'm a programmer, a tech nerd, and love computers. But, I also have noticed how there's less personal contact and less community than ever before. We know more about everything and less of everyone. I think my desire to sit quietly and peacefully is a reaction to this. I'd never want less technology, as it has provided a standard of living previously unknown, but I also recognize a need to slow down and enjoy life as it is. Take a moment to sit and be quiet, and listen and dream and live.

- M

Wednesday, September 12, 2018

Swear to me!

Movie tough guys are constantly roughing up baddies and demanding information. One of my favorites lines is when they say, "Swear to me!" Yup. That'll work. Terrified people will admit to anything. But, you also get the opposite end, where someone swears on their mother's grave. In this instance, the oath is a mighty pledge based on honor and reverence. Isn't it interesting how the same statement can be so different in context? That's one of the big reasons language is so difficult to decipher and is among the best secret codes you can make (I love making secret codes).
Batman being tough in "Batman Begins"
The funny thing is, we do this sort of thing constantly. Sarcasm is the fine art of saying what you don't mean and implying something else. Humor is a slippery subject, but I think we can all agree it's better to laugh than sulk. Don't take life too seriously. There's so much hilarity around us, and we fail to notice it most of the time. Swear to me you'll open your eyes! Swear to me!

Ha. That's actually lots of fun to say, though I can't imagine myself being a tough guy who punches baddies in the throat--I'm just a big cuddly teddy bear. Well, I doubt movies will change this sort of thing, but we can still laugh. That's the thing about language anyway, sometimes it's just too strange to take seriously. So, paste a smile on your face and just go along with it.

- M

Thursday, September 6, 2018

The smell of fresh wax and candles.

We latch onto many things throughout our lives, and a great number of them are smells we associate with memories. Good or bad, these smells are powerful. For husbands, the fragrances our wives wear are intimately tied together with our love for them. The smells of childhood imprint on us so powerfully that we can be sent back to our youth with just a whiff. And then there are the smells we just like to have around: candles, cedar, evergreen needles, and many more.

I find it interesting how we build huge industries around fragrances of all kinds. How much money do we spend just to smell nice? What about candles for our homes? Our cars? It seems nearly every activity and location in our lives is filled with good smells. That means it's not just important, but essential to who we are as people. In fact, we even bury our loved ones with beautiful things surrounding them.

Knowing this, I think it's important to pay attention to what things are cherished by the people we care about. Scents make wonderful birthday presents, unexpected gifts, and sensational house warming presents. I prefer candles, because they come in a huge variety and are easy to turn on and off (fire is great for that you know). It's a fine fabulous feeling to give something special to friends and family. I promise.

- M

Saturday, August 25, 2018

Why we always need heroes

When things go wrong, we want heroes to save us. However, we need heroes anyway. We need examples to emulate, people who are greater than we ever hoped to be, living role models who lift us up simply by existing. Heroes provide hope, inspiration, power, excitement, and yearning for greater things. I'm talking about true heroes, who live their lives with passion and purpose, not the fake sort forced upon us by spiteful people. We need heroes to press us forward, guide us, and make us see a better future. Real heroes do all these things.

We don't have to be Superman to be heroes
Superman by Alex Ross
For some reason, our culture loves deconstructing heroes and either destroying or making them worthless. Sure, people are flawed, make mistakes, and generally louse things up. Heroes aren't perfect, and if they were they would be impossible to imitate. It's okay to want to be like them. Battlefield heroes inspire courage, workplace heroes encourage diligence. Heroes are found in every area of life, and I submit they are needed there just as much.

I think we have taken the danger of hero-worship too far. Sure, It's not good to idolize anyone to the point of ridiculousness, but if we only strive to destroy any great example then we lose the value of powerful role models. In an age of no heroes, there is no hope and anyone who tries is torn to ragged bits. Then, we run the risk of passing into the anti-hero, who does all kinds of mischief and does good only as an idle after thought.

We need heroes in our lives. We need to celebrate heroes. We need to once again place heroes in places of honor. And, not just military heroes, but all walks of life. I'd like to nominate my dad as my lifelong hero. Who's yours?

- M

Monday, August 20, 2018

Words of Power

One of the reasons I originally became fascinated with language is the capacity to bring hope and comfort to those hurting. Stories are especially potent in this regard, because we insert ourselves into the characters and live out their adventures. Sure, I was with Bilbo when he found the One Ring in The Hobbit, and I scurried with Frodo and Sam in the Lord of the Rings. I haven't found any other medium with such power and majesty, and I doubt I ever will. There's something very special about living through a good story; the characters become part of our lives.

A well crafted story is capable of developing truly astonishing levels of emotion in the audience. Whatever the genre, stories burrow into the heart and draw forth the power of our feelings. But, it's not just the language doing it, there is the journey to take into account. Truthfully, if there is no journey, there's no emotion. If you were told the ending, without everything before it, the story would fall on its face and bear no power at all. We all require a process of growing to reach maturity, so should it be any different with a story?

The power of words is undeniable. The right words, at the right time and place, can change the universe. I my estimation, language is the greatest power of humankind. With it, we build cities, form societies, and develop future generations. Words are the future, the past, and the present. The old phrase of, "sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never harm me," is true only in the sense that words don't physically injure. However, words have massive impact on our spirit. Use them with care.

- M

Wednesday, August 15, 2018

Endless patience

Have you ever watched a cat stalk something? The pure patience of cats, in this regard, is impressive. They sit perfectly still (aside from a twitching tail) and track their victim with their eyes. Slowly, they move into position, glide forward when unobserved, wait and watch. Then, their muscles coil, their body bunches, eyes widen and breathing slows. The moment of attack is unexpected, sudden, and often successful. Being on the wrong end of such activity is unnerving, to say the least.

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This is a visual example of patience. We all have the capacity to wait, but many of us have a hard time doing it. It's likely because when we sit still, we feel the lack of movement in a psychological way. We get jittery, restless, and want to fill the silence with any sort of noise. I've read that if people are subjected to a pure white room, with zero noise at all, they go absolutely nutty. However, you can learn to be patient, and it's a skill well worth developing. Take a pause, catch your breath, and simply let the world whirl past. After a while, you'll find it refreshing to step away from the chaos of modern life.

Isn't it strange how when people actively escape the frenzy of activity, they are considered hermits, or worse? Sure, it's unusual, but why such animosity against people who only want a slower paced life? I don't know the answer to that. What I do know, is we live life at far too great a pace. There's plenty of reason to slow down and enjoy life for what it is. Not everything should be done in a hurry. My wife's father was the greatest example of patience I've ever witnessed, and he remains an inspiration to me to this day.

So, take the time to let the threads of life out of your grasp for a while. Bask in the silence. Pay attention to the world around you. You don't need to be a hunter to have patience, just the willingness. Maybe the results will surprise you, frustrate you, or encourage you. Patience is a worthy skill to develop.

- M

Saturday, August 11, 2018

Timeless beauty.

Standards of beauty are fickle, right? Fashion trends change practically daily, and we are told, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." That's all correct. But, it's also totally wrong. There is timeless beauty around us daily: flowers, sunsets, sunrises, clouds, birds, the geometry of nautilus shells, the pattern of planets around the sun, musical wind, thunderstorms, rain, fresh air. In the eye of the beholder? Who can find fault in the glory of warm sunlight on the skin? That's timeless beauty, and all we need to do is pay attention. Isn't that incredible?


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Why do we value beauty so much? Aside from being pleasant to look at, is there any other reason? Advertisers spend billions on models who strut around wearing products. Movies, generally speaking, feature attractive actors playing the parts. Smiling beauties sell more stuff than frowning ordinary people. There's something in our brains that responds favorably to beauty with an endorphin surge. There's quite literally a physical reaction to beauty. You see this in various ways: pupils dilating, posture straightening, smiles, and a whole host of other responses. Have you ever bent over to smell the flowers? That's a positive response.

And, yet, we go around scoring beauty wherever we find it. Flowers aren't colorful enough, the babbling brook isn't quite the right sound, our hair isn't curly or is too curly, the sunset is too red. Actually, I bet we complain about nearly every aspect of beauty, while simultaneously being jealous of it at the same time. We battle this impulse by acknowledging timeless beauty, that never changes and is always gorgeous. And, there's beauty in actions as well: the warm hugs of family, a champion's graciousness to those behind, the helping hands of rescuers, and the strong shoulders of comforters. When you discover timeless beauty, spend a few moments to cherish the experience. It's well worth the effort and time.

- M

Tuesday, August 7, 2018

Forgiveness and renewal, two very important themes.

One reason why stories are created, is to form the framework of forgiveness. A surprising number of tragic stories are made primarily to spread forgiveness and to renew faith in humanity. Of course, it doesn't take tragedy to grant forgiveness, as many other kinds of stories prove, yet the device is well suited to bring catharsis to the audience (that is, to set free the pent up emotions and provide relief). Scary stories do this in a way, but it's the deep and haunting tales that grip your heart that provide the best return.

Many people find forgiveness very hard to secure. Whether it be forgiving themselves, or others, people like to hold grudges. Stories can teach how to forgive, why to forgive, and when to forgive. It's safe to say that even grudging forgiveness is better than allowing pain and hurt to fester inside. Look at the tale of "Hamlet" by Shakespeare, and we find a family incapable of forgiving anyone, and it leads to the doom of them all. What a powerful example! More recently, look at the musical fiction "The Greatest Showman," and the amount of forgiveness and renewal on constant display is breathtaking. I especially love how his wife and family renew the main character's passion for life by their forgiveness. It's inspiring.

Why do stories tackle such heavy and powerful themes? Well, why not? Stories are part of our human nature, so authors pour themselves into creating them. It's natural to talk about anything important to us. Also, stories provide a safe way to learn and express ideas. We get to experience situations unknown to us, and see how people might behave. When we watch other people forgive and experience renewal, it's easier for us to do the same. I love reading books where the main character is shattered personally, and then later is renewed to life. Stories aren't merely entertainment, but powerful platforms for teaching.

- M

Thursday, August 2, 2018

The Karate Kid 2, a movie about much more than fighting.

One of my very favorite movies is "The Karate Kid 2." It follows the adventures of Daniel and Mr. Miyagi. Unlike many sequels, you don't need to have seen the first. Actually, it may be better to see the movies in reverse order, because "The Karate Kid 2" is the story of Mr. Miyagi. The history of this martial arts teacher is profound, deep, and resonates so well that I'd wish I had known more about him in the first movie. Sure, in the first he's a mysterious presence, but understanding who and what he is would have made the relationship between master and student far more complex and believable.

Generally speaking, the second movie is considered better than the first. Why is that? It's very simple, it's because the audience already understands the world and the players and the motivations. So, we hit the ground running and are able to quickly get into more substantial plots. Think of the widely believed best Star Wars movie, "The Empire Strikes Back." There is no setup of characters, no setup of what's going on, just an immediate danger and the beginning of Luke Skywalker's Jedi training. The movie starts with the story already progressing at a fast clip. That's taking full advantage of the history of the first film and efficiently adding to it.

Back to "The Karate Kid 2," the best part of the story is how seriously the events and cultures are treated. Mr. Miyagi's father dies at the start, and there is reverence throughout. Okinawan culture is shown with no hint of comedic wit, but instead with dignity and understanding. This film seems much more real than the first, with real problems and real heroics. Yes, having the Karate Kid win battles is basically the task of both movies, but in the sequel he earns the victory. You see him struggle and overcome, but not just him. You see, Mr. Miyagi grows too. There are huge character arcs for all the main people.

There's a test I have done with many books over the years. I flip to the last page and read the last few paragraphs. I'm looking to be surprised and to wonder how the characters got to that point. If I'm not surprised, then I know the characters don't change much. "The Karate Kid 2" passes with bright colors. It's not only a fun movie, but a good movie that teaches as well as entertains. There are lessons in compassion, forgiveness, loss, honor, revenge, love, patience, and never backing down. Sure, it's not literary artwork, but the movie has a lot to offer. Check it out.

- M

Monday, July 30, 2018

Going to the beach to avoid the Sun ...

My life is filled to the brim with curious oddities. I love meat, yet am allergic to bacon. I enjoy the outdoors, yet can't stand the heat. I love music, yet have sensitive hearing. Well, I've added another to the list: I go to the beach so I can avoid the Sun. Yup. You heard me right. Not the Sun in particular, but the massive heat wave we've been experiencing in the United States. I have lost the ability to sweat, so the only way to cool off (aside from shoving ice down my throat), is to let running water carry the heat away. The ocean works impressively well at that task, therefore the beach was calling me over ... the family came along too, I'm not a tyrant.

So, there I was, swimming in the Gulf of Mexico, with a t-shirt covering my chest and a cowboy hat giving shade to my head. About the only skin actually exposed were my legs and arms. I'm happy to say I didn't get a sunburn at all. I did get a little red, from reflected light, but overall I'm unscathed. I found it interesting how many people did all sorts of things to avoid the Sun on the beach, like using tents and umbrellas and sheets. It's funny to think we travelled all that way just to cover up and ignore the blessings of nature all around us. But, that's what vacations are for! To ignore life and goof around with stuff that shouldn't matter, yet is so very much fun. We saw dolphins!

I try very hard to notice the tiny trinkets of wonder in daily life, but when you go somewhere new and experience things from a fresh viewpoint it really isn't hard at all. I'll be the first to admit that I get stressed far too easily, and frustration rises and I have a tough time maintaining composure (my wife is helping in that area, God bless her). Life is good, nature is good, family is good. We simply need to open our eyes and take it in. Maybe we'll go to the beach next year? I have no idea, but I am positive that I'll be covering up again and avoiding the Sun as much as possible.

- M

Wednesday, July 25, 2018

Be careful of the heat, or suffer the consequences.


Perhaps you've heard the term "Sun stroke" or "Heat stroke" in relation to getting too hot out in the sun. Sure, you sweat and are uncomfortable, but how bad is it really? We joke about "sweating like a pig" and just go merrily about our business. In this summer of heavy heat, I feel the need to make sure everyone understands how serious this really is. You see, I used to laugh at the heat and did my best to work despite it and the sweat. Then ... I suffered a real sun stroke (to the point where I stopped sweating, got nauseous, felt chilled, all of it) and then a while later it happened again. As a result, my body became extremely sensitive to heat and I've since had heat exhaustion and heat stroke multiple times. I lost the ability to sweat at all (you might think this is great, but I cannot cool down without a cold shower, and I hope you see how limiting that is to my life), which means air conditioning is quite literally keeping me alive.

I think we forget just how frail our bodies can be, and so we tough it out and think we can will ourselves to be okay. Sure, you can build a tolerance to heat, but not all at once. You need to work up to it, and for those who haven't gotten used to hot climates it is essential that you monitor your body. Drink plenty of water, keep out of the direct sunlight if you can, and pay attention. People who are suffering from the heat aren't fully aware what's happening to them. Watching for heat exhaustion is a buddy affair, and you need to keep each other healthy.

The reason I'm bringing this up now, is I've seen lots of people saying "Just suck it up, there's plenty of people who've been hotter and they're fine." I'm sure that's true. It's also true that people survive being shot in the chest, but I'd still go to the hospital if it happened to me. Don't simplify other people's health concerns. Would you do the same for anyone you care about? I hope not. Remember, we are in this together. Don't let yourself, or others, suffer because of some misplaced sense of toughness.

- M

Monday, July 23, 2018

Real champions don't hear the crowd.

People watching champions assume that one of the motivations to win is the applause of the crowd. No, it's not. True champions don't notice adulation, and are so focused on their goals that they probably won't become aware of anything but their own efforts anyway. All focus is on their goal. Their prize. Years are spent getting to the point where they can try. If they fail, the weight is crushing, but they shrug it off and train harder. It's difficult to imagine the single-minded focus these champions maintain for such long periods. That's heroic by itself.

Why do we frequently idolize champions? It's easy to see why. Champions accomplish what we dream of doing, battle incredible odds, endure unbelievable pains, and wade through it all with grim determination. Watching these people perform is inspirational, as it should be. I think deep down we all want to be champions, even if it's only in the realm of paper folding. It feels good to succeed, but especially good when it's not easy. In fact, make things too easy and the reward is worthless. It's only through struggle that we bloom and grow.

True champions aren't in it for the glory, they are competing because they have a deep need to prove to themselves that they are capable and worthy. None expect to lose. All anticipate their own victory. Sure, there can only be a single victor in a contest, but that doesn't stop champions from thinking that they alone will stand at the place of honor. I think this is what we really admire in champions: their ability to enter competition with the faith that they have prepared wisely, trained vigorously, and will see their efforts lead them to win.

Champions don't hear the crowd, because their own dreams are shouting too loudly.

- M

Tuesday, July 17, 2018

Sleep ... you are feeling sleepy ...

I've always been someone who enjoys being awake at night. We call such people, "night owls." Yes, I realize it's kind of silly, considering owls are known to be active at night, so why not just say "owls" without the "night" in it? I don't know, but it's the phrase. I love the dropping temperatures, the quiet atmosphere (people usually go inside and to bed), and the darkness. My mind is clearer at night, and it's when I get the majority of my writing accomplished. I love it. But, the night is when we naturally sleep, so I also run up against the need to close my eyes fighting against my desire to finish whatever I'm working on. Yup, it's tough being me...


Angel, our cat, absolutely terrifying!
Are you getting sleepy yet? I've read that yawns are oddly psychologically infectious, with the prodding being so powerful that simply reading about stifling a yawn is enough to make readers want to stretch and get out a good yawn. What yawns do for us is still a mystery, but our bodies love doing it and we sure enjoy the feeling too. I will say that when our cats do it, they look positively EVIL! Trust me, if you haven't seen a cat yawn, it will make your skin crawl. Yeesh. I think their real nature slips out a bit at the end of a yawn.

Our bodies apparently have a sleep cycle rhythm that impacts our health and happiness. I'm of the opinion that it's incredibly easy to break the cycle and throw ourselves into chaos. It's too easy to burn the candle at both ends, working late and rising early, cutting short our sleep to no good effect. At some point, our bodies must recharge and relax its burdens. Sleep is essential to our health (some very terrifying experiments have proven this beyond all doubt), so I am doing my level best to lull you all into a comfortable and leisurely bliss ... and then you will sleep without a care or worry. Let your eyelids slide down and carry you into dreams of fantasy and imagination.

- M

What if ... ? Grabbing story ideas from thin air.

Speculation about what could be isn't only tied to science fiction. Anyone can ask, "What if?" and apply reasoning and imagination to whatever they want. Many tremendous works of fiction have been birthed by such simplistic questions: Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea, Forest Gump, Anne of Green Gables, Star Trek, mysteries of all kinds ... the list is endless. If you find yourself stumped for what to create, just start asking questions and let your mind wander.

I'm not sure when it became a bad thing to daydream, but it's sure battered down the heights of imagination most people aspire to. Actually, imagination is a strangely disparaged thing--people seem to think a bright imagination is bad. I can't understand it. For instance, I was helping my father put a television on the wall, with one of those extending and turning television brackets, and we were stumped by three screws that simply spun in place yet didn't come out. I sat and thought in frustration, then imagined the inside and some possibilities. In the end, we took the back off the television and discovered another bit that unscrewed rather than the screw. It was a simple thing to fix and reassemble. But, without such imagination, I don't know what we'd have done.

You see, if you begin with the question, "What if ..." then you are lead by your own imagination and experience into a completely new world. That's where huge leaps in technology come from, springing from seemingly nowhere, to dazzle the world with profound brilliance. I think back on my favorite books, and the majority are hugely imaginative. If you keep prodding yourself with imagination, you will naturally respond by fostering more imagination inside yourself. That's the best part! Clear away the cobwebs and let your mind soar into a universe of possibilities!

- M

Saturday, July 14, 2018

I am so very happy to live in the time I'm in now, at this moment ... in time.

I often hear people say that times were better in the past, before everyone got in such a hurry. While this is an interesting perspective, I really don't want to go back to the days of no indoor air conditioning, ice boxes, horse and buggy, or writing with quills. If you want the sensation of those times, there are places you can go to experience it and then return to the modern world. Sure, people weren't as rushed, and that's not good, but also didn't live as long as we do now. Science has advanced to the point where we are thinking very seriously of populating other planets! Incredible.
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The point I hope to make is that we enjoy looking back on days of our youth with eyes colored by nostalgia and happy memory. While I agree that our lives are invariably simpler as children, the times are certainly better today than ever before. The technology available to us is dizzying. I do understand that many places don't have access to these wonders, and for that I'm truly sad. Wouldn't it be grand if everyone had whatever they needed? But, the world doesn't work that way, does it?

Despite our feelings, time marches on and on and on. Unless we stop inventing things, technology will also march forward, as will our desire for more. Isn't it funny how happiness and contentment change when we see new things? However, there are many advances which only came about due to dissatisfaction with the statue quo. Is it bad to improve things? Of course not. That's why I'm very happy to live in the now and not in the then ... in time ... I mean present ... the current ... today.

- M

Tuesday, July 10, 2018

Home is where the heart dwells.

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Have you ever been away from your home for a lengthy time? When you return, it's much more than sleeping in your own bed, surrounded by things you treasure. Home encapsulates everything we hold most dear: our family, our memories, our love. We lavish money on our homes, turning them into outward expressions of ourselves. By doing so, we put our hearts there and make it comfortable. Home is safe, cherished, desirable, and certain. Losing a home is crushing, even when nothing else is lost. Home is a sanctuary, where we can go to escape the villainy of life.

When we finally grow to the age where we leave our parent's house and fly to our own, it's tough and challenging. Until that point, we relied on someone else to provide the impetus to turn a place into a home. Crafting your own home for the first time is a mountainous achievement, yet we must go through the process or we never grow to full adulthood. Baby birds must eventually leave the nest. It's frightening and wonderful all at once. You'll never be the same again.

I think the concept of home is as natural as the need to breathe. We crave a place to belong, where we are totally ourselves (warts and all), and where the world only intrudes as much as we allow. Our hearts form a lasting bond with our homes--hardly a surprise, considering we spend a large portion of our lives therein. As a parent, I also want my home to be home for my children; a sanctuary they can run to when they cry and hurt. Maybe that's why we usually make it a point to compliment someone's home, and why the owners are so happy and proud to receive the kind words.

- M

Saturday, July 7, 2018

Knots and Ropes and Confusion

Since a child, I've loved knots. No, not because I'm good at them, but because they infuriate me. How is it possible for shoelaces to be correctly tied, yet when you pull the ends they turn into Gordian Knots (a mythological knot so complex nobody could ever untie it ... it was defeated with a good sharp blade). Sure, I understand what happens, yet these knots are frequently so tight that I am completely unable to undo them. I suppose any knot is difficult when pulled with great strength, plus my fingernails are always short so I don't have much prying ability.

The vast array of knots is inspiring. Think about it. A length of rope can be twisted in such a way as to tighten under stress or release itself when yanked, to join pieces together or form loops, to guide horses and hang pottery. Some are purely for ornamentation, while some are objects of attack. If there is a job to be done, it's likely a knot can be employed to do it. I have a book in my office about knots, and there are over 200 kinds, with pictures showing the methods and uses. It's bewildering. I suspect you could spend a lifetime learning them and never untwist them all.

Sailors are often tested on their seamanship by tying knots. It's a show of intellect, cunning, and knowledge. Knots do indeed make fabulous riddles, such as the Gordian Knot, and are woefully forgotten. We no longer teach them, hardly use any (beyond our shoes), and have lost the sense of their many capabilities. Is modern life so technological that we don't need to use knots anymore? It makes me sad. Sure, knots raise my blood pressure, but that's not a good reason to get rid of them. Maybe there's still time to bring knots back to the forefront? I hope so.

- M

Wednesday, July 4, 2018

Happy Independence Day!

Happy Independence Day to America!

Today we celebrate our many freedoms, enjoy family and friends, eat good food, and light fireworks in celebration. Such freedom came with enormous cost and requires diligence and courage to maintain. We must never forget why our nation was founded. America was birthed from the idea of individual freedom, where personal religious beliefs aren't mandated by the state and where even the lowliest person can own their very own slice of land. Hard work is encouraged, as is participation in the political process. All citizens have a voice, and the government works for us.

This is why we celebrate. This is what we celebrate. This is what we hope for the rest of the world.

- M

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Writing and invention go hand-in-hand, and can make anything work.

Have you ever wanted to create a device, or a business, or attempt a ridiculous adventure? Well, all you need is a pencil and paper and a bit of imagination! Write it down. Writing is a magical activity, making all things possible. Maybe you think you don't have the ability, or the mind, to craft the words. But, I believe anyone is capable of storytelling. Release the bonds holding you back and go where the story takes you.

Invention is essential to human activity. Without new ideas, we would still be running from place to place with only dreams of riding in cars and soaring in planes. Jules Verne is often regarded as a wonderful inspiration for many technical advances, such as: atomic power, submarine warfare, zero gravity weightlessness, and so much more. Did his writings make these come about? Likely not, but I'm sure it gave vision to the people who actually made the ideas reality.

Inspiration is frequently mentioned when speaking of artists of any kind, yet it isn't reserved only for pie-in-the-sky types. Anyone looking for ideas can discover a sudden wild burst of brilliance that springs into invention and progress. But, you can't steer a ship that still anchored in the harbor. In other words, get up off the couch and make your ideas into something big. Yee haw!

- M

Friday, June 29, 2018

Castles, ruins, and imposing places of strange beauty.

Throughout the world are places of huge structures and strange beauty. If you've ever been inside a castle, there's a sense of hugeness you don't get anywhere else. But, large ruins offer a similar feeling, such as the Parthenon, the mind-boggling scale of Mayan buildings, and the Pyramids in Giza (not ruins, but at least a tomb). Human activity is bewildering. Modern structures tower into the sky in ways our ancestors couldn't have imagined. Yet, walking amongst moss encrusted blocks of stone still evokes a pensive mood. It's a good time to reflect on what we've accomplished.
A modern creation, and you could buy it for $45 million! What a deal!
How long will our current structures survive? What record will exist of what we did? Certainly strong places will remain, though it's surprising what's strong and what isn't--roads and highways are overgrown so quickly it dizzies the mind. It's a good exercise to consider such questions in all areas of life, because it provides a sense of perspective to life. After all, everything needs a beginning and end.

For me, castles are more than structures of defense. They are places of fantasy, heroics, imagination, and romance. Yup, not true to reality, but I don't care. These buildings aren't common, are ridiculously expensive to create, and are impractical defensive structures in current warfare. So, why would I have dreams of owning one? Well, I've always wanted secret passages and hidden rooms. I imagine castles are loaded with such places ... and if not, well, I can dream can't I?

- M

Wednesday, June 27, 2018

Sometimes, it only takes a birdsong to cheer you up.

All my life, I've relished the nature around me. Sadly, I'm often allergic to it as well, but I don't let that get me down. It's fun watching ants, listening to the birds, playing in the water, and finding shapes in the clouds. Birdsong is generally recognized to be cheerful and lovely to hear, it's incredible how they never miss a note and are constantly happy to belt their songs out to the whole world. Then there's the glorious sound of flowing water, wind through trees, waterfalls, smelling flowers, and the list goes on.

I wonder why we don't simply sit back and enjoy nature more often? We rush to and fro, doing many important things, yet hardly spare the time to take in the glories everywhere else. However, nature gets along just fine and is always there when we finally open our eyes. I heartily encourage everyone to relax in the glories of the natural world (except mosquitoes, the little winged monsters). When I was little, we took many vacations just to see natural wonders--the Grand Canyon, Monument Valley, many mountains, the Great Plains, and even Carlsbad Caverns (a magnificent hole in the ground).

One of my great regrets is that I haven't given the same gift of experience to my children. Vacations just haven't worked out all that often, though we have had some. Spending time with your family is important, and if you can include a grand wonder then so much the better. Missing that, you can easily go outside, grill some hamburgers, and play in the grass. Then, sit back and find animals and teapots in the clouds. Nature is fun!

- M

Sunday, June 24, 2018

If you hear the story of the song, before the song, then how can you not be moved?

Have you ever seen a competition where the contestant tells an incredibly heartfelt story about how they got to the point where they are? I find it particularly poignant when a televised singing competition does this, because the story influences the song in a significant manner. The song wouldn't be nearly as effective without the story behind it, and it impacts the singing as well. The power of connection between singer and audience is mesmerizing. If I were a judge, it'd be incredibly hard not to praise anyone who drags themselves up from the muck and grime of a hard life.
There's a story behind this, I promise...

That's why I'm so passionate about stories, in any form. Stories forge connections faster than anything else. Why else do we beg our grandfathers to tell us stories of olden days and times they've experienced. We want to hear them, to hear the emotions and the depth. The funny thing is, the story doesn't even need to be all that significant, like how kicking a stone back and forth lead to the love of your life. We need stories as much as we need air to breathe. Life is held within stories.

It's no surprise that contestants with a powerfully emotional story to tell are commonly passed on to the next stage. Audiences adore a rags-to-riches tale. We have a deep desire to see people succeed in the most improbable ways, because in some way we hope to attain the same notoriety. There's a hidden need to do something great in our lifetimes. So, in the lack of that moment, we tell stories to create those dynamics anyway. And, so, we change the world one story at a time, and I'm glad to say it works.

- M

Saturday, June 23, 2018

Fear is a great motivator.

I doubt anybody enjoys being afraid. I'm not talking about spooky stories that give you shivers, but true and stark terror. Being in combat is one example. Finding yourself inside a burning house is another. Adrenalin surges through your system, your hands shake, time slows down, everything becomes very sharp and stark. When you're truly afraid, you search out any possibility to make yourself safe, regardless of how crazy the ideas are. Fear is a fantastic motivator.
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Some professions require people to walk the realm of fear on a daily basis, to charge into the teeth of death itself and not look back. Bravery barely touches the inner fortitude of such men and women. One aspect of heroic stories that I always find fascinating is how the hero finds their bravery. Is it learned, born, forced? Is it like leadership? Perhaps an innate talent or gift?

Perhaps our awe of bravery is tied with our fear of the unknown. I do think it's true that most people idolize extreme bravery, yet also hope they themselves never need to perform such acts. Beating fear is a constant goal, and a good one to be sure, because we human beings hate limitations. We don't like being stopped by our own weakness, so we push at the barrier of fear throughout our lives. Sure, it's good to be afraid of a charging lion or twisting tornadoes, but there are instances where those fears must be faced and overcome. Life isn't safe and never will be, so let your fears motivate you to greater heights.

- M

Tuesday, June 19, 2018

Love is incredible.

Image by: Amanda
I am married and my wife has given me three incredible children. I was thinking about love, and thought back on parenting advice I've often heard: "Don't have a favorite child." I was confounded by the concept. It didn't seem possible. Yet, as a father, I can honestly say my love is total for each of my children. My heart isn't split four ways. It's full. I love them all completely, unequivocally, and without condition. You see, love is like that. You can love all of your children with your whole heart. If you are blessed with another child, your heart will embrace the gift absolutely and won't break. It's a miracle of life.

I'll never forget the births of my children. My wife and I happily counted the days until the expected time, then struggled through the process, and finally a fresh life entered the wide world. I can't imagine another time when such overwhelming love will wrap around me. Breathtaking. The yearning and joy and hope which infuses a crying and wriggling little baby is mind boggling. Yet, no matter how many are added, your heart happily adds another without missing a beat. There is never-ending room inside the wellspring of love. What an incredible gift love is!

Maybe this is why we value love so highly? True love is cherished and treasured, while betrayal of that love is hated and despised. It's a sign of something greater in our lives, and we yearn for it. Greek tragedies often center around the single concept of lost love, and modern romances are practically dripping with it. Love crosses all barriers, brings us closer, and binds us in ways too deep to express.

I have an answer to an old riddle: "What do you give the person who has everything?"

Give them love.

- M

Saturday, June 16, 2018

Tribute to fathers

We all have fathers to thank for our lives. It's tragic that not everyone has a father around them, due to myriad circumstances. Fathers teach us so much about men and what it means to grow up. They provide the boundaries and discipline we require to mature. In the ideal, fathers are intimately connected in our lives, are always available and caring. Sure, fathers aren't perfect, nobody is, but their influence on our lives is enormous and lasting.

I think back on my childhood and my father is always a big part. He's my personal hero. I hope one day to be the man he is. Whenever I'm facing a huge decision, I want to know what he thinks. His advice is worth the effort, and there is nobody I want to impress more than him. Being a father myself, I keenly feel the responsibility and pressure to be the best I can be. It's not easy, simple, or applauded for the most part, but the reward is massive.

Amusingly, I promised myself that I wouldn't be the sort of dad who would do long speeches about stuff ... well, my kids have made it clear I've become well known for my speeches. Ah well. My reason is simply to instruct, and sometimes it takes a bit of time to express such things. Apparently dads are like that, so who am I to break tradition now? My deepest hope is to raise children with respect, compassion, and the strength to deal with life. That's what Father's Day means to me.

Happy Father's Day!


- M

Wednesday, June 13, 2018

Lessons from my brother

My brother, the pilot
My brother is a pilot. The enormity of that statement is pretty incredible, since I can't think of a single time in my life when he wanted to be anything else. He was a military pilot first and has now moved into commercial piloting. I have no doubt he is in the top echelon of ability (as he proved so well in the military that he became an instructor pilot and did the check rides of all the base officers). But, watching him reach and grasp his dream isn't all of what he taught me.

Despite all our arguing, fights, antagonizing, pestering, chiding, bullying, yelling and generally acting like siblings, my brother taught me the importance of many things. He demonstrated a vast love of reading (though he is a speed reader and I cherish every word), gave me the ability to analyze situations for possible gains, instilled a deep yearning for protecting those I care about, showed me that two people working together are far better at making things happen than a single person alone, and probably the most important of all: that brothers stick together forever.

I regret the times I haven't felt this way. Yes, as a child we were cruel to each other, as siblings often are, but I'm more mature now and I have set those memories aside. I love my brother. Because of him, I know there is always a man I can turn to for help and support. We don't talk as much as I'd like, though we nearly always find something to laugh about when we do. Life just wouldn't be the same without him.

For those of you with brothers and sisters, I pray you will cherish them with all your being. Life is uncertain and often tragic. What a shame it would be to lose them, with thoughts unsaid or love unexpressed. Poetically speaking, your family shares your heartbeat and feel your pains and triumphs in equal measure. Let them know.

- M

Monday, June 11, 2018

I despise endings and goodbyes

Have you ever gotten to the end of a book and immediately looked for the next part? If you love a story, then you don't want it to end. You want to see more of the world, hear the next adventure of the heroes, or simply want to hang out with them some more. It's awful to reach the end and know there's nothing more. I well remember when "Return of the Jedi" ended, I was satisfied and torn and wanted to keep experiencing the Star Wars universe. Because of that, I read many of the novels and comics that came out, simply to extend my time in their world. Love is like that.

The final part of a story is typically called the anti-climax--because it's the bit immediately following the exciting climax--and is where plot threads get wrapped up and characters are set free to go on their way. Mostly these segments are short and to the point, to lessen the pain of saying goodbye. There are types of stories that never fully say goodbye (any series with a recurring character is a good example). I think this may be the reason for the incredible surge of long-running movie franchises. I can't imagine any other reason why we've seen the continuing success of the Marvel movies (aside from having some really fun stories).

Audiences enjoy falling in love with characters who last more than a single story, who can influence their worlds, and who matter for the long term. My first love is certainly the hobbits from the Lord of the Rings books, particularly Sam and Frodo. It's refreshing to see a greater acceptance for extended stories, even ones that last for over 10 years (such as the Marvel movies). Maybe this means that people's attention spans are finally growing? I hope so.

- M

Wednesday, June 6, 2018

Remembering the fallen

Today is the anniversary of the Normandy invasion, the largest amphibious assault in world history. The heroes who died that day saved the world from tyranny and untold darkness. I've seen documentaries, read biographies, and listened to testimonies of that day and it never fails to make the hairs on my neck stand up. Today was filled with heroics I cannot fathom, terror I hope I never understand, hope and vision and stubbornness and pain. I thank God for their sacrifice, and I pray it is always remembered. Today, we thank our fallen heroes.

We remember Normandy

D-Day, Omaha beach

- M

Monday, June 4, 2018

The blindness of spectacle

A trend in many modern stories is for spectacle. What I mean is it's not the story as a whole that's the big draw, but certain portions and even little set pieces. Movies are of particular note, since everything is visual enticement. Movie previews love to show "money shots" where something impressive is happening, but these spectacles don't make a story--frequently they totally detract from the plot, in the vain search for heightened emotions. The problem is that spectacle can blind the audience to the otherwise lack of depth in the story. Sure, an audience is dazzled by what's happening, but when they reflect on their experience they'll discover a profound lack of substance. That's the danger.

Stories are a series of events strung together in meaningful ways. Memorable scenes are touchstones for a good story, but shouldn't be based upon them. Stich them together and let the audience decide what should be the spectacles. Of course, it's hard not to make a spectacle out of something like the Battle of Helms Deep (Lord of the Rings), or the sinking of the Titanic, or the sunset of twin suns in Star Wars. It's magical when these things happen naturally and I'm dazzled by authors who manage the trick.

My favorite stories roll along like unstoppable juggernauts, where the heroes are barely keeping up and the villain is pulling all the strings. Well, the other way around is fun too, I fully admit. All that really matters is having a good time and being entertained. We search out stories to step away from life for a little while. It's escapism. So, like beauty, a story is in the eye of the beholder. If it works, then who cares if it follows the rules.

- M

Wednesday, May 30, 2018

Hope and sacrifice, the legacy of heroes.

In life, there are few things as inspiring as a hero. Whatever your field of interest, there are people in it who excel to such a degree that they become idols. Nothing at all wrong with it. If the field genuinely interests you, then you will search and find people to look up to and emulate. We need heroes to push us to greater effort and raise our expectations. For instance, for years the four minute mile was considered impossible, but once one person broke it the rest of the world suddenly found within itself a whole bunch of others who could do the same. That's the power of a real hero.

Military heroes have a special place in our hearts, because they genuinely place their lives on the line. That's a big reason why we have holidays celebrating them. They aren't the only heroes, of course, there are plenty more--firefighters, police officers, emergency medical services, and the list goes on. We admire anyone willing to sacrifice themselves for others, and place it as one of life's ultimate blessings. Heroism is achievable by anyone, which makes it one of the few prizes we can all strive for no matter our ability or station in life.

The legacy of all this is that we cherish and admire anyone who goes beyond ordinary courage and treads in the rarified air of hero. I bet if the nightly news was only filled with heroic stories, that we would be a much happier place. We need to be inspired, to be pushed to greater efforts, to be reminded not to simply do the minimum but go beyond. Oddly, heroes aren't necessarily role models, since acts of heroism are usually singular moments, but we love to hear the stories and are eager to learn more about the people themselves. I can't imagine life without heroes and the world would be pitiful without them.

- M

Monday, May 28, 2018

Remembering fallen heroes this Memorial Day

Tomb of the Unknown Soldier
I believe we all want to have real heroes in our lives. Our military men and women are distinct heroes we call all point to. It's always sad when those we know pass between our world and the next, but it's also a source of pride to name them among the heroes of our military services. These people have spent their lives in a high calling: defending the nation they serve, to protect all the people therein even if the heroes don't even know them. There's a reality of dedication and honor that we who have never served won't comprehend. These heroes have earned our respect and remembrance. I urge you to take time today to think about them, offer up prayers for their families, and to keep them in mind as you celebrate.

Happy Memorial Day!


- M

Saturday, May 26, 2018

Are you ready for another holiday get together?

Family times are loads of fun, especially for the parents who set it all up. When I was a kid, I hated these things; I didn't know any of these somehow relatives, I didn't want to drive in a car for hours, and I sure didn't want to be uncomfortable for hours turning into days. But, now that I look back, I value the travel and seeing far-away places (like Colorado and Florida). Because of these trips, I have a greater sense of family and the world in general. However, these realizations didn't happen right away, and took a lot of years to actually come to my attention.

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So, for the most part, these holiday gatherings are a time to play outdoor games and eat good food. If family gets in the way, just smile and behave yourself, answer whatever goofy questions are asked and move onto something else as fast as you can. Trust me, in the far future, you'll appreciate these memories. It's even possible that a little bit of fun will weasel its way into the festivities. Who knows? Maybe you'll even have fun.

As for the food, that's my job on holidays. I love cooking outside on the grill (even though I'm now using a propane grill instead of a flaming charcoal pyre of burning doom). I'll cook steak and hot dogs and sausage and chicken and anything else we can think of putting on there. It all tastes extra great from a grill. Also, it gives me a fantastic reason to be a curmudgeon and ignore everyone ... I only joke, I'm happy to talk and laugh with anyone willing to brave the flames. Heh heh.

- M

Tuesday, May 22, 2018

The mind boggling complexity of everyday life.

Technology is all around us. The range of human invention is absolutely astounding to me. The lowly pencil is a marvel of engineering. Our dishes and cups are perfectly milled. Even the water we drink is carefully cleaned and processed to filter out the bad to keep the good. The wealth we enjoy on a daily basis is hard to fathom, even a scant hundred years ago. But, have you ever stopped to think how all this is accomplished? The factories that produce pencils are absolute marvels! I watched a documentary about how ballpoint pens are manufactured, and the technology is bewilderingly complex. For instance, the little ball at the functioning point of the pen is so perfectly made that there is only space for ink and none for air--and those balls are microscopically tiny.

I love to learn of the sequence of advances leading up to modern technology. Often, it's expansion and extension of already known ideas, pushed into new arenas and modified to work. The refrigerator is a side-effect of scientists working to discover absolute zero (a temperature so low that not even atoms jiggle about and no heat is found). The plastics we find in daily life is not the same we started with, but is a finely tuned product with a huge variety of strengths and capabilities. Even the paper we use is wonderfully suited to our needs, and we hardly give a thought to how it's made.


Many early science fiction stories used a plot of dragging a future man into the present, where people would question him and try to learn new technologies. These attempts would always fail, because even a scientist would not be able to completely detail even simple tools. After all, you can drive a car, or rebuild an engine, but could you give schematics and processes and tools for building one from scratch? Even if you did the design, there's the fabrication and metallurgy and skills to go along with the process. Today, I very much doubt any single person could be of much help to someone a hundred years ago, other than to offer ideas and concepts.

Isn't that amazing? We live in abundant times of sheer magnificence. Take a little time and appreciate what's available to you daily. We are blessed.

- M

Monday, May 21, 2018

Weather isn't always perfect, but it comes close.

Weather is something we all know, so it's unsurprising to find it mentioned in stories all the time. What I find interesting is how the focus tends to be on the moody aspects. For instance, "It was a hot and sultry day," or "Cold rain cut through my clothes, soaking me to the skin." It's a happy occasion to find good things about the weather, like my favorite scene from "The Hobbit" book, where Bilbo climbs past the forest treetop and pokes his head into the sun-drenched paradise above the horrible forest of Mirkwood. I adore that scene, because it stands in such stark contrast to the dreadfulness below. Also, it's the first story scene I ever read where I could absolutely see it completely--just like it was playing out in front of my eyes (a magical experience for a third grader).

Typically, people complain about the weather, or totally ignore it. Like so many things, we love to complain but are slow to enjoy. I'm not sure why we human beings do this. Why can't we roll in the grass when the sun is shining? Why not skip through the puddles after a rain? Why don't we grin into the wind and laugh at the moon? Yes, we can enjoy the weather when it's good. We don't always have to complain. Which brings me to one of the few jokes I know: What do you get when you put a bunch of farmers in the basement? --- A whine cellar. <You see, farmers pout about everything, because nothing is ever perfect ... yeah? funny huh?>

Despite all this, we still love to talk about the weather. In fact, it's such a cliché that we joke about how often we speak about it. Yet, it's frequently the very first thing we talk about with someone. So, it's no surprise to find weather in our stories. It's a background feature generally, but when it's the focus there's nothing holding it back. I suppose the best thing about weather in stories is that it absolutely obeys the author, setting the scene and ambience for whatever they have in mind. Plus, it's easy to strand characters by using weather--also, most suspense stories wouldn't exist without some kind of horrible weather.

- M

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

Games are dreams given form, and are great for working your brain too!

Do you play games? I'm not only talking about electronic games, cellphone games, video games, crossword puzzles, puzzle books, or board games. Nope, I mean any game at all. Children naturally play constantly, as it's their method of exploring interactions and the world around them. But, adults normally only play formal games of sport or video. Yes, we do get together at parties and play Charades or other goofy things, yet they never really rise beyond the silly.

Yup, Chutes and Ladders, Checkers, Hide and Seek, and the inimitable Tag are games not only of mind and body, but dreams. Dreams are the soul of our childhoods. I wanted to be an astronaut. My brother wanted to be a fighter pilot. When we played games we often did exactly those things. Sure, the game might be Uno, but in our minds we were flying around and destroying galactic interlopers and shooting down bad guys. It's amazing what the imaginations of the truly inspired can come up with.

I do my best to inspire imagination with the stories I write, but games do a far better job than I ever will. No, I don't want to regress to childhood, like a modern Peter Pan, since I really like being an adult. What I do hope is for people to enjoy their lives more. You don't need to be serious all the time. Have a bit of fun. Let your dreams out of captivity once in a while and see what fun you can have. Play a game!

- M

Mothers in stories

We all love our moms. We talk about them, cry out for them when we hurt, and hold up signs saying "Hi, mom," at sporting events. So, it's no great surprise to find caring mothers inside our stories. Sure, some stories cast mothers as psychos from the nether realms, but usually mothers lead charmed literary lives. I grew up with the model moms from "Leave it to Beaver" and "The Andy Griffith Show." (For those who haven't seen such ancient shows, these moms were impossibly perfect and infinitely patient. We adored them.) Mothers give us our lives, nurse us, kiss our boo-boos, read us bedtime stories and generally be really nice to us (fathers have their own day, so their contributions are for another time).
This was just too cute not to include here.
Because of all this, mothers are incredible emotional touchstones. Authors use these connections to quickly imply depth in characters, since the way people behave toward their mothers demonstrates a vast array of emotions and will get a story into high gear very quickly. Also, everyone has a mother and father, so the whole world can relate. Yup, it's a useful shortcut, so why not use it?

I think back on my experiences with my own mother, and I can't help but smile. She's an inspiration and role model to me and my children. My wife's mother, gone now to glory, was also an exceptional influence on me. So, when I read a book, watch a movie, or listen to a song about mothers, it's impossible not to think of the fine women in my own life. I owe my life to them--one for my birth and raising, and the other for my wife and best friend. Discovering a story with such a mother is a gift in itself, and a welcome connection to mothers in general.

- M

Saturday, May 12, 2018

Water gets a modern update ... with sparkles!

Water is necessary for your bodily health, tastes great, and is fun to throw at people. It's been around pretty much forever, and is now getting a modern update! Yup. Water with sparkles is the new fad. It's essentially classical soda water (water that's been carbonated, so it has bubbles) with some kind of flavoring. It tickles your nose and makes you burp. But, it's still the nourishing water you grew up with.

Don't get me wrong, I love this new water. I no longer need to seek out a soda pop when my stomach is feeling lousy, and can simply open a can of sparkling water. What I find amusing is how water first became a major industry (when many brands actually began with essentially tap water) and now has fashioned itself into a fad where you see water right next to the most popular soda pops. It's incredible. What an amazing world we live in.

So, how long until they repackage air? Or sunlight? What about making heat less unbearable? Is it possible to make vegetables more palatable to children? Perhaps someone could create a bread that toasts itself, or at least doesn't fall to pieces when you butter it. There's so many possibilities! Of course, you never can guess what the next fad will be, but I do hope this sparkling water idea sticks around for a long time.

- M

Tuesday, May 8, 2018

Cats and boxes

It's common knowledge that cats love catnip. It's like narcotics for them. However, there's something they want even more than that ... boxes! Yup, cat's adore boxes. Big, small, perfectly-sized, or hardly fitting, they want them all. There are many videos showing this bewildering behavior, and it's completely adorable (check out Maru the cat on YouTube). I can't understand why they do it, despite having clearly better options right in front of them.
I fit. Wanna make an issue out of it?
Sometimes I think animals do these things just to endear themselves to us. Dogs tilt their heads in such whimsical ways it's hard not to laugh. Birds imitate our speech, throwing it back at us during the most inappropriate times imaginable. I'm sure even the exotic type pets have their joys--though I can't imagine a snake ever being funny. And fish are ... just fish.

Human beings create incredibly powerful connections with pets. They become our companions, guardians, and cuddly pillows. Have you seen little kids with a new pet? If your heart doesn't fill with sweet emotion, then you aren't paying attention. Adults enjoy pets just as much, if not more, and the connections are life altering. But, despite all my considerations, I still can't figure out why cats will purposely stuff themselves into boxes far too small for their bodies.

- M

Monday, May 7, 2018

Why is it that when things are perfect, it's wrong?

The science fiction movie, "The Matrix", has a great monologue from the character Mr. Smith. In it, he says that a prior version of the computer simulation failed because it was perfect and humans rejected it out of hand. It's an interesting thought, and it's also likely true. Whenever there's perfection--such as in sport or art--we immediately look for trickery, for mirrors and smoke, anything to make it so we aren't inadequate in comparison. So, we prefer our worlds to have flaws, because that makes them more "real."

This brings us to the common advice all new writers are given: give your character a flaw, something that makes them vulnerable. What's interesting is these don't necessarily have to be real. For instance, my favorite detective, Columbo, makes a big deal of being a bumbling fool, yet is actually highly intelligent and uses this seeming vulnerability to put suspects into a state of arrogance. Batman's flaws are his childhood trauma and also his unwillingness to kill, which limits his options and thus forces creativity. You see, flaws expand a character rather than limit them--and that's why perfection is so hard to believe, because perfection requires nothing else.

Authors can use this sense of reality to incredible effect. Audiences may not even realize their being manipulated. If you're watching a suspense movie and the hairs stand up on the back of your neck without you knowing why, it's likely the author is pricking your sense of reality. Think of it like a magic trick--lovely to watch, infuriating to work out how it's done, and ultimately unfulfilling when you know all the details. However, as an author, the thrill is in watching the audience react, and enjoying the amazed looks and bewildered chatter. So, don't let perfection stop you. Get out there and mess stuff up!

- M

Saturday, May 5, 2018

Playing in puddles and laughing at chipmunks

Children have fun as a matter of duty and pride. They will thoroughly engage themselves in the study of rocks and tea parties, laughing all the while. Then, they grow up and strangely lose that same pride. What is it about life that makes us all so dull? Having fun seems like a chore, a bother, and even troubling. But, have you watched chipmunks eat? Have you stepped in a puddle and paused to watch the ripples? Have you petted a bumblebee?
Chipmunks stuff food into their cheeks as they eat

I think what's remarkable about how children view the world is not their continuous questions and awe, but their ability to ignore all the heavily important parts we adults focus on and instead turn to finding anything fun in their immediate vicinity. They'll get excited about blades of grass! It's incredible. Adults usually roll their eyes and tell the youngsters to get moving, but what's wrong with being amazed? Yes, adults have totally different priorities, however we also need to remember to enjoy the life we work so hard to maintain. Work is only half of the equation; play is the other.

When you do something for enjoyment, plan on having fun! If you do something, do it with all your heart and soul. Take this phrase to heart: "Work hard, and play hard." There are few better mottos. If it's sports, then rave like a lunatic, if it's a dance, then flail with abandon, and if it's love, then pour your passion into every glance. Fun, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder, so why let someone else take it away? Go out there and skip in puddles and laugh at the silly chipmunks!

- M

Wednesday, May 2, 2018

Time moves so quickly!

Perception is a strange thing. For instance, when taking a test I swear the seconds turn into minutes, yet when I'm enjoying time with my wife the hours turn into seconds. How is that? The old saying, "Time flies when you're having fun" definitely applies, but our sense of time passing can't possibly be that unreliable ... can it?

When I was actively pursuing martial arts (I still do, but can't devote my entire activity anymore), there were certainly occasions during simulated combat where time nearly stopped and it was like being inside a Matrix film. What happens is your brain is so hyper-focused and aware that its processing at a speed totally abnormal to usual life ... which has the result of stretching those times to ludicrous levels. So, it follows that when you aren't as hyper-alert--such as enjoying a date with your sweetheart--that time simply rushes past without your awareness.


As we age, we tend to relax in our daily lives. The world isn't as great a mystery to us, so we let our attention slacken. So, again, the youthful have an advantage in time (though I doubt they feel the same way about it). What's fascinating is hearing people complain about not enough time, or things going too slowly. We all know that time doesn't change, so why fuss? Maybe it's because we regret lost opportunity? Perhaps we yearn for an event to happen? Whatever the reason, time isn't as stiff a concept as math suggests. Our perceptions color everything we experience, including how long it takes to finish a test, or enjoy a circus.

- M