Dr. Warren Wiersbe, an ode to a life extraordinary.

Dr. Warren Wiersbe and his lovely wife, Betty.

It's amazing how long it takes for thoughts to finally gel together when we lose an extraordinary person. I've finally been able to coalesce my meanderings, and hope this is well received. Here goes...

I first met Dr. Warren Wiersbe when I was about 12, during the time I helped my parents with janitorial work. I'd heard of him and knew he was a writer, which I passionately wanted to be, so I found his desk and left him notes from, "Janitor Mark." Amazingly, he kept all those notes and filed them for safe keeping. Well, he was enchanted by my youthful exuberance and met me in person, and thus began a lifelong friendship and mentor-ship. We spent many hours talking, learning, and joking. His humor always managed to dig under my shyness and tear it loose. He was a wonderful man, and I loved him dearly.

He heartily encouraged my writing, and critiqued everything I wrote--including my first two books. The amazing thing was, though he disliked fiction, he always found time to read whatever I created. His wisdom helped me in far more than writing. He mentored me spiritually, and I will forever be grateful for his guiding light. I owe him a great debt.

My favorite memories are when he would take me to the steak house and we would have lunch together. At the time I wasn't aware of just how special those times were, but I was a kid and was at least wise enough to make those times count. When I turned 16, and got my driver's license, he gave me a congratulation card with $25 inside for my first ticket! What a jokester. The privilege of such attention was lost on me at the time, but now I can only look back with wonder.

When my son was born, we named him Peter Warren, in honor of Dr. Wiersbe. My whole family met both him and his wife many times. We didn't take enough pictures, but I'm glad for the ones we have, and he gamely posed for them. It's impossible to express just how big of an impact he made on me and my family. What an extraordinary man.

If there is one lesson that Dr. Wiersbe taught me above any others, it was quiet humility. He always gave credit to God first, and only accepted praise second-hand as the tool of the Creator. I saw how he treated fame, the way he practically ran the other way when confronted by it. He enjoyed anonymity whenever he could, but didn't complain when I'd introduce someone to him. What a fantastic example he was!

I hope that I've passed on his lessons to my own children. I hope his influence has made me a better man. I hope his memory never fades. I wish I could talk to him more, and ask his opinion on things, but that time is sadly gone. I will never forget him, or his special ministry to me.

Thank you, Dr. Wiersbe, and thank you, Mrs. Wiersbe for always being gracious and loving even when we interrupted dinnertime. We miss you both.

- M

Can story characters really provide role models?

We search for role models everywhere, but particularly from people we have connections with--family, friends, celebrities, and so on. Another source is from stories we experience, be they movies or books or oral tellings. In the ancient past, stories were the main method used to pass along models of behavior. There's a word describing the role models in these tales--we call them "paragons," because they idealize the virtues expressed. These still remain in modern stories, though they are far less perfect and bear obvious faults.

King Arthur in Disney's "The Sword in the Stone"

Why bother with role models? Why celebrate certain qualities? It's the same reason we give medals to brave soldiers, or accolades to incredible deeds of heroism, or Nobel awards to scientists who create lifesaving vaccines. Role models demonstrate the qualities we most want to possess. It's only natural to feature them in widespread stories. Of course, the trouble is how to make paragons sympathetic, as well as threatened, since their very nature is to be superhuman?

I believe the modern incarnation of role models being deeply flawed is swinging the pendulum too far. Sure, it's hard to accept a perfect human, but it's also just as implausible that everyone is a slimeball. What we need are examples to follow, human enough to believe, yet above the reach of most. Paragons give us hope, show us that we can be better, and even inside stories they still inspire. In the end, that's the biggest part ... examples to follow.

- M

We idolize heroes, but particularly athletes

When you watch events such as championship games, or yearly competitions, and especially the Olympics, it's easy to idolize the athletes. It's probably the most obvious display of performing beyond natural limitations. These athletes inspire us with their great fortitude, heart, and unwillingness to accept anything less than their best. Images of people willing pressing forward, despite injury (mind or body), will make our hearts swell with pride simply for being a fellow human being.

Pole vaulting, a true hero sport
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 Any competition has victors and losers. Fans go berserk when their team wins, but also when they lose. Athletes face this constantly, and anyone watching gets to see how they react. Seeing a heroic athlete accept defeat with grace, and win with equal grace, is inspiring. We all hopefully want to be better than we typically are. So, athletes easily become role models (despite the actual quality of the particular athlete). Those wise enough to understand this will do their utmost to display their best and shove down their worst.

Finally, for those of us who cannot possibly perform athletics on par with Olympians, we live vicariously through the athletes we watch. It's a concept called "projection." It's when you place your own self onto another (sometimes in a good way, others in a bad). With athletes, we want to be the ones performing the stunning backflips and incredible feats of human perfection. There's nothing wrong with it, as it's a key part imagination, and even helps us yearn to do better. Which is why sporting events are so amazingly popular -- I just can't imagine anyone watching two physicists battling out with math theorems of dimensional geometry ... but I can hope!

- M

Ode to My father

My father, with one of his very odd cats.

My father was my very first hero. A man beyond any other. A superhero who could lift me to the sky and throw me among the stars, then safely drop me back to hug his neck. He taught me to be strong, what honor means, and to treat others with respect and compassion. I love my father and he remains my hero to this day. It's often said, but I wouldn't be the man I am without the patient guidance of my father.

Good role models are precious few these days. I really wonder why that is? People in this country generally look to celebrities (typically sports, movie, television, radio, or any other kind of highly visible star) and then wonder why their role models are one-dimensional. Why look to celebrity when your own father has demonstrated how to live since your birth? Choosing role models is one of life's most important tasks. After all, we tend to emulate those we admire; it's only natural.

Dad, I wanted to take this space to thank you for being a steady example, a rock I've built my life upon. You have demonstrated every quality of a mature man that I admire, and I can only hope my own life mirrors your example. Wisdom is at your back and patience in your hands. You are a true hero. You are my hero. And, you are my cherished father. I love you, dad!

- M

Catching a piece of greatness

I've been watching documentaries recently, about sports stars like: Babe Ruth and the horse Secretariat. One commentator said that when in the presence of greatness, it's like a piece of it breaks off and falls on you. It's why we seek to be around any great things, even if it's only to see. Nothing mystical or magical about it, because it's all about connections. We talk about seeing someone famous, sitting in the same chair as a president, or holding a signed portrait. But, the best is being part of a famous event, starring a famous character; thus being a witness to history.

Babe Ruth

We all want to be touched by greatness, to be the very best at something (no matter what it is). And, when that hasn't happened or isn't possible, we seek out the slightest touch by someone who has greatness already. After all, autographs wouldn't be important to anyone otherwise. But, imagine having a signed copy of the "Star Spangled Banner" or an autographed helmet from Niki Lauda? It matters because of what these people did and do.

Connections are everything to us. We live our lives finding them, maintaining them, and breaking them. We are even known because of our associations, and people will seek us out if we have prized ones. This is such a big part of life that I wonder: if aliens ever came here, would they even comprehend how we are interconnected? It's good to know that we're pretty alien ourselves.

I do recommend checking out some documentaries about great people. They're worth learning about, even if it's just to touch greatness from a distance.

- M

San Andreas frenzy!

There's a new action movie out right now, "San Andreas," featuring the Dwayne "Rock" Johnson. It's about the fault line running through California finally going foom and causing a massive earthquake. The main plot follows our hero, who is part of a helicopter rescue team, and his fight to get his family to safety. It's exciting, action-packed, and full of heroics and courage. It's encouraging, positive, and ultimately uplifting. So, why are critics surprised it's doing well? Do they really think a good hero movie will tank badly?

I love seeing heroes succeeding, and will gladly pay my hard earned money to watch them. That's a common theme here on this blog, and for good reason. We desperately need heroes. We need people driving us toward greatness. We need examples to follow. We need paragons (a great word for you to look up to, if you haven't heard of it before). And, "San Andreas" provides a hero to emulate. And, it's clear that the viewing public agrees. As of June 1st, 2015, it's made $54 million and has only been out a single week! Impressive, most impressive.

In the end, I'm just glad to see a movie with heroes we want to emulate. I want more! Give me new myths, new villains, and new heroes to challenge those baddies! I'll never have enough, and I always beg for another helping.

- M

Ode to Mothers. Happy Mother's Day!

My wonderful mother, surprised when I made a perfect strike in bowling, during a perfect game ...
(or I could be remembering it a little bit wrong...)

"Mom." Who can possibly explain the depth of emotion tied up within that single word? Mothers provide comfort, love, unending patience, and steadiness in a mixed-up, crazy world. If I live to be a thousand years old, I'll never possess the wisdom, courage, or sincerity of my mother. She is a true example to be followed and I pray my life is a reflection of the beauty of her own.

When I think of the best parts of my life, my mother is a perfect example. Like anyone, she has rough patches, but I barely see them. What I do see is a life I want to emulate. She has sacrificed so much, and asked for so little, that I'll never be able to repay all of it. Maybe, if I'm lucky, I'll come close. Whatever I can do will never be enough though. She deserves so much recognition and praise. I can only thank her from the bottom of my heart.

To think of your mother is like pulling a warm blanket over your heart. Why is it that men in combat ask for "Mom" when they're hurt? Because when Mom is there, everything is alright, you're safe and home. And why is it that at sporting events we hold up signs: "Hi, Mom!" Why? Because we want our mother to know we're on television and enjoying our moment of fame. Kids want to impress their mom, so all is right in the world. If we could, we'd do a dance too.

Mom, I love you with all I am. I'm proud you're my mom and I hope you feel special this Mother's Day.

- M

The end of an era!

There's a concept called "passing of the torch." It's meant to be a picture of an Olympic runner taking the torch and giving it to the next generation of champion. It's a great visual, and I think we can all relate. Fathers and mothers do this as they teach and groom their children, master craftsmen do it as they instruct apprentices, and every area of life we see this going on all the time. It's the constant cycle of rebirth and renewal. Without it, things become stale and die away. Passing on becomes another symbol for life, despite the reality of death.

Maybe it's because I'm older, but I really enjoy stories that show this transition. Take a mighty hero, like the Flash (my personal favorite), and show them fading away as their successor takes over and builds on the legacy. Such stories are powerful, especially because we glimpse the growth of a new hero. It's like watching new stars come into being in real life (entertainment and sports are particularly easy to spot bright new stars). There is a special magic about these stories--so much so that we get excited about even being in the same room as such people.

The fun part is the realization that the end of an era isn't anything to be upset about. What it means is that new greatness is coming into being and we get the joy of watching it bloom! I get a thrill out of realizing I'm witnessing a torch being passed, and I find myself on the edge of my seat as I watch it all unfold. It's one of the greatest kinds of sport, and I'll never tire of it.

- M

Passion, Zeal, Fervency, and the complete unwillingness to fail!

There are things we all have unbridled passion about; things so important to us that we cannot fail. Love should certainly fit into that description. What's incredible about this level of passion is how we absolutely will not stop until we see it through. Nothing in heaven or earth will stop us. The end result is inscribed on our soul and we will fight whatever nightmares arise to make it happen.

The neat thing about this kind of zeal is how infectious it is. Your force of will inspires others! How can't it? When you are around someone with that level of drive, you want to be part of it and share in the push to get it. The funny thing is how often this happens and nobody realizes what is going on. Suddenly a whole town is focused on accomplishing something just because one person got it started. It's amazing.

This is why I fully believe that one person can indeed change the world. Yes, it's true and always has been. Whatever the world tells you, grow your passions and transform everything around you. There is power in zeal, gravity defying force in passion, and true inspiration in fervency. Let the beast out and demonstrate how full of passion you really are. People will not only be amazed, but they will follow in kind!

- M

Honesty, truth, and doing what you promise

One thing that has been ingrained in me since childhood is the importance of honesty. In all things, because even the little things are important. I believe it is the singular facet of personality that displays integrity to anyone willing to look. Hopefully I've helped pass this on to my children. As the old saying goes, "Your word is the only thing nobody can take from you." Like all sayings, it's a bit trite, but the meaning is well meant. Honesty is yours, and only yours to lose.

We all see evidence of the results of honesty and dishonesty all around us. It's tough to trust people--which is why lawyers and such are making such a great living. We have waivers for everything now, mainly because both parties want to cover any liability. How much simpler life would be if we could completely believe whatever someone agrees to? It sure would be an easier world. Thinking about it makes me yearn for the days of "Leave it to Beaver" or "The Andy Griffith Show." Calm, simple, easygoing ... tranquil. In this ever more automated and driven world I long for times of long Sunday afternoons, lemonade stands, and Summer breezes.

Maybe we can encourage a better world by being more honest with each other. Sure, people may misuse our honesty, but ignore those pests and keep a bright eye about you. It's worth it. With a bit of persistence, we can make at least our own little part of the world better. Try it, I'll bet you'll like it. It's neat seeing trust in someone's eyes reflected back at you. You'll quickly find you want that to happen all the time.

- M

Lindsey Stirling, Peter Hollens, and Pentatonix

My taste in music is odd for sure, but I've really enjoyed these three groups. Lindsey Stirling is a current darling of YouTube (having chalked up well over half a Billion views!), and Peter Hollens (who does unbelievable a cappella) is an earlier collaborator with her. Pentatonix won a television competition and also do unaccompanied vocals--I especially enjoy their Daft Punk medley.. What fascinates me is how these three groups are able to succeed through the power of the Internet. They are reaching all over the world, and it's driven by people finding their videos online and supporting them. I love it!

It's fun trying to figure out how things go viral. Why do certain groups blast into stardom, while others muddle along? How is it that some books never have a following, despite being really good, yet others become sensations no matter their quality? Fads come and go, as all things do, but it doesn't stop us from guessing what's the next one. Look up the "Pet Rock" some time. That was pure genius, not because of the rock but because of the incredible instruction manual. Talk about creative use of advertising skill!

For me, I'll continue supporting new talent. My joy is watching their stars rise. Lindsey Stirling has been great fun to see go from her first shy videos to a seasoned performer who captures audiences with the wave of her violin. Check out her YouTube channel. And, while your at it, check out Peter Hollens and his wife. That's pure enjoyment right there.

- M

Mentors and passing knowledge onto the next generation

Where does knowledge come from? Ever ask that? Well, there is one answer: it comes from those who already know. There's a concept called apprenticeship, used in some parts of the world, where a master teaches a willing student. We don't do much of that here in America, but I sure wish we did. Having a master teach someone passes the knowledge along, refines it, and creates connections from past to future. The world needs more such connections, not fewer.

Mentors are likely the most popular version of apprenticeship now. But, it's normally an adult being a mentor to a child. Elders teaching the new generation. We need more of that, throughout our lives--not just at the beginning. I can't imagine a time when I know everything. We can always learn, if we want to. Mentors teach, and so do masters.

The next generations need to know what's important to us, but also why it's important. They need to understand, and that doesn't come solely from books. It almost certainly doesn't come from sitcoms and fluff on television, or dribbling nonsense on the internet. Find someone who is a master and learn from them--seek out experts. Not only will they enrich those who'll listen, but the knowledge they share will grow through a new generation and find fruit nobody could have guessed.

- M