Traditionally speaking, women are the romantic titans of our world. But, that certainly hasn't stopped me, and many other men, from tickling the brains of our lovely mates. So, I thought I'd speak about romance from a man's point of view; what it means to us, why we do it, and especially how we manage. Don't worry, it's nothing you can't handle.
First is what romance means to a man (also tying into why). Not to be crude, but it means we get girls. At least, that's the starting point. We do actually desire to make life grand and exciting for the women in our lives. And, we know romance matters, so there is great motivation to get good at it. Sadly, many men forget this fact after marriage and let it all lapse. Romance is just as important afterwards as it is beforehand. Sure, it's not a swimmingly natural thing for us guys, but the work is more worthwhile than anything else.
The difficult part is managing romance. Getting a book and following the steps can help (at least giving ideas) but it's artificial and women know it--though I suspect they appreciate the effort. Guys have a more utilitarian focus when it comes to romance (which is how the stereotypical blender gift came about), but with a bit of thought it really isn't very hard to sweep a woman off her feet. Sincerity, honesty, and heaps of respect are very sweet romance. I've had particular success with love letters--no surprise as I'm a writer--but written letters are keepsakes and will be treasured and kept, trust me.
From a man's point of view, romance is a path to a great finish. It's not that we don't value romance itself--we do actually--it's just that we mainly focus on the results. We laugh and joke about it. We act shy and blush at the mention. But, it's far more important to us than we let on.
xoxoxoxo Hugs and Kisses xoxoxoxo
- M
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